Rochester Wedding Thank You Notes
Make each one personal.
Endeavor to connect with each guest by personalizing their thank you note by mentioning a specific moment that might apply to them. Also, thank them for their specific gift, giving a sentence or two about how you plan to use it.
Do: Thank you so much for the margarita machine! Jack and I can’t wait to break it in on taco night.
Don’t: Thanks for your thoughtful gift.
It’s not important to have wedding-specific thank you cards.
Some wedding invitation suites come with thank you notes that match your other paper goods. And that’s great, but not necessary. There are going to be a million different occasions over the years that require a thank you note. It’s perfectly fine to purchase a classic style, either with or without a monogram, that you can buy in bulk and use again!
The same rules apply when you have a honeymoon registry.
If you had a honeymoon registry, you received things like train tickets and dinners out rather than a butter dish and blender. But the same rules still apply. Thank them for their specific gift, and mention a pertinent moment from either the wedding or honeymoon that you think they’ll enjoy. You can even theme your thank you cards, like selecting one in French following a Paris honeymoon, if you wish.
Yes, you can send special cards to special people.
If you want to send a different card to immediate family members or friends from your wedding party, that’s perfectly fine. The pink and gold paper airplane card would be a perfect thank you note if you had a paper airplane exit from your event.
A pre-printed card is no substitute for a thank you note.
In an effort to save time and energy, pre-printed thank you notes have been emerging in the wedding industry. Although this is fine to give to your guests as you welcome them to your wedding (it’s a great idea to leave each guests a thank you note for attending at their place setting), it’s not acceptable as a thank you note for their gift. A thank you note should be a personal call out and not make the guest feel like a number.
But that also doesn’t mean that they need to be a novel.
Save on postage with postcards. Your message doesn’t need to be long. Just make sure you hit all the right notes in the process.
Do: Thank you so much for the gift certificate to our favorite restaurant. We’ve already used it for our first “married” date night! It was wonderful seeing you at the wedding. I know how much it meant to both of us that you traveled so far. Hope you are having a great summer, and let’s talk soon!
Don’t: Thanks for the gift. We really liked it. See you soon!
If you both are still struggling with writing your thank you notes, set up personal goals and rewards. For example, don’t spend any of your gift cards until you finish, or go for dinner out for every 50 thank you cards you complete. Whatever works!
